Dear Elle,
Right now I have a girlfriend. She’s fun but last week I realized that I like her friend more. I’m pretty sure that her friend likes me too. We have more in common, and have the same sense of humor. Am I allowed to break up with my girlfriend to pursue her friend? What should I do?
JS
Dear JS,
If one of your friends’ girlfriends was into you, would you want her to break up with your friend and then start canoodling with you? In communicable disease land, this sounds like a bad idea. I think there are some exceptions, say for instance, if you and your girlfriend are mutually not that interested in each other, and you haven’t slept together. I mean, do you think that the other girl wants sloppy seconds? Okay, well, maybe she does… but do you want to be the man doling out sloppy seconds?
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JS,
You could always do what Jerry Seinfeld did in “The Switch” episode.
Careful though, she may be “into it”!
Seinfeld, Season 6 Episode 11 “The Switch”
Good Luck,
/salute JS
Ask a man “do you want to be the man doling out sloppy seconds?” and you’ll only get one truthful answer. And yes, some (maybe most??) girls will take the sloppy seconds as they won’t see it as that. If they did see it as sloppy seconds, there won’t be as much cheating going on as there currently is. Cause when it comes down to it, it takes 2 to cheat.