AskElle: That’s What She Said

Dear Elle,

Recently, my girlfriend broke up with me. we’ve been together for a year, and I wasn’t really expecting it, so I think that she’s been talking to someone else. When I asked her, she said no, but she wants to see other people. I don’t think she means it. Can I get her back?

From Ted

Dear Ted,

No. I’m a strong believer in my own theory, which is that people break up not because “it’s me, not you” but that because “it’s you, not me.” While she may want to see other people, maybe she’s sick of you telling her “you don’t mean it.” If you still don’t believe me think about this: would you want to lie in bed next to a girl who would rather be laying in bed with someone else? Right.

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Elle Chyun is a dancer and arts collaborator living in NYC. She’s a graduate of the University of the Arts in Philadelphia and currently dances with cakefaceart.com and robot hands. She likes vodka, shoes, and sarcasm.

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