Dear Elle,
I was snooping around on my girlfriend’s laptop and was very surprised to find out that she was looking at a bunch of nudie sites. I know it wasn’t me because I clear my cache frequently. The funny thing is that all of the pages were of women with nice boobs. I confronted her on this and she said she’s not lesbian or bi, but that for some reason she just liked to look at them. Should I worry?
Confused in Los Angeles
Hi Confused,
If she’s not going to leave you for another woman, what is there to worry about? Men are so fascinated with breasts. Come to think of it, I think that most men are very into their penis too. You should feel pretty awesome that your girlfriend has a healthy curiosity and can share your appreciation of a woman’s body.
Dear Elle,
I take personal finance very seriously. I’m in accounting, so it’s just my nature I guess. I’m dating a girl that I am very into, but when we were booking our first trip to Cancun, she could not book the hotel because she did not have a credit card. She said she has really bad credit. And it’s not like she made a few bad purchases in freshman year of college…….she’s 26 and has a steady job. I think she just doesn’t know how to handle money. I’m thinking about dumping her because for me it’s really important that she has the money stuff down straight. Am I being too harsh?
Barry K. in Arizona
Hi Barry,
Of course you’re being too harsh. Maybe she’s really into fashion, and you still manage to wear the wrong tie with dress shirts. What seems so easy to you may be difficult for her. And if you’re “very into” her, then you’d want to help her and get her finances under control, assuming that it’s not bad credit but just her inability to manage money. But money is like sex, and it has to be approached at the right time and with a little bit of finesse.
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yep we are into our peni$, but we don’t go around looking up pics of other ones. at least not purposely haha
It’s always good to delete your cache. You never know when you will get hit by a bus and people will see your web history.
What? An accountant with a girlfriend? That doesn’t seem right.
Hey, at least now your girlfriend can’t get mad at you for looking at the same thing!
Reegsta- the only thing stopping men from checking out other men’s you-know-whatsits on the internet is blatant homophobia.
Elle, i think the only thing stopping me from checking out other men on the internet is the complete disinterest i have to see another man. it might in part be homophobia, but really, i don’t think there’s anything that i’d want to see less than that.
Well, comfortable with my masculinity, I had sort of assumed that if you didn’t have an interest in looking, you wouldn’t look. But I do think there is many a man who had a non-sexual interest in seeing a naked guy, but straight up homophobia stopped him. Of course, never in my life, do I expect that any man will ever admit to me (or any other woman short of mind reading powers) that he looked at another naked dude.