“In order to survive, gotta learn to live with regrets” – Jay-Z

While most of us including myself have a no regrets mantra, sometimes we need to swallow our pride to admit that there are a few we might possess. True if a few things worked out differently, it might have tipped the delicate balance of your life. Had the domino fell another way, then who knows what position you would currently be in. You could be in a better or worse situation, but you’ll never really know. You shouldn’t always look back and lament these, so it’s best to chalk up the L and keep it moving and attribute it to experience.

Regrets it’s Okay to Have

So ignoring all chain reactions and eastern Asian religious beliefs, here are a few regrets that are really okay to have:

Having a significant other in college – One year is fine, and maybe even two. Having guaranteed vag is always a little easier. However if you were single, your game potentially would’ve been sharper and possibly your college experience would’ve been much more fun, unless you currently have an STD.

Not seeing your favorite athlete or musician live – One day I’ll be able to tell my future kids that I saw Michael Jordan play basketball, but I’ll leave out the detail that he was in a Wizards jersey. Athletes have a shorter shelf life in their prime, and you really don’t appreciate them until after they retire. Do yourself a favor and find out when your favorite artist comes in town next and buy tickets if you haven’t seen them perform.

The One that got away – This isn’t necessarily the One who you’d think you would marry, but it can also be interpreted as that one girl you could have had. Blame it on timing, on lack of balls, on another girl or on the weather, but guys will always fish for an excuse to make themselves feel better about this situation. It’s really okay though, since most of us do have that one girl in mind.

Buying an MP3 player that’s not an iPod – While I’m no Apple fanboy, these other gadgets are just glorified bootlegs of the original. You may just say Apple has a superior marketability, but they also have a superior product. Even Bill Gates would rather have an iPod over a Zune.

Accepting that first job offer – Once you see that starting salary on your offer letter outweighing your career earnings, you tend to sign the dotted line right away. Generally speaking, your first job dictates your career path unless you plan to go back to school and start over. So make sure you’re passionate about what you accept.

Moving out the nest right away – It is definitely hard to depend on your parents after not living with them for the past 4 or 5 years. But it’s also harder living paycheck to paycheck those first couple of years into the workforce. Maybe it would’ve been better to eliminate your debt and build your savings before trying to make it out on your own.

That tattoo you got that you no longer like – Whether it’s the tribal band on your bicep, misspelled Chinese characters on your chest, or what’s her name on your arm, you’re reminded everyday of your decision. Maybe you should have tried those temporary tattoos for a while first, but take solace in knowing that there are now more and more ways to get rid of an unwanted tattoo.

Listening to non-investment people about investment advice – Unless you have financial savvy, it is pretty difficult to make sound economic decisions. You should never invest in anything just because everyone else is. Make sure your risk-taking is always calculated. Who wouldn’t regret losing money anyway?

Hooking up with that one girl – Unless she gave you that aforementioned STD or you inadvertently impregnated her or is she was your homie’s ex, then you shouldn’t have this regret.

Buying the extended warranty on electronics –It probably wasn’t the best move, but you shelled out the extra $349 for a 3-year extended warranty on a $1,999 HDTV you bought a few years back. Extended warranties are a huge cash cow for all retailers, but the rule of thumb when purchasing these warranties is that you shouldn’t be insuring what you can afford to buy again, but what you can’t. The rationale being that to replace a $99 DVD player is easy, but having to buy another $1,999 HDTV would suck.

photography by geishaboy


7 Responses to “Regrets that are Okay to Have”

  1. Harry Cox on September 5th, 2008 3:44 pm

    Is it possible to be regretful that I didn’t do more regretful things in the past?

  2. LC on September 5th, 2008 4:14 pm

    That is so true about extended warranties! I always use to buy them (so stupid) and never used it. After awhile,and after some great advice from my brother, I stopped throwing money to these retailers! We bought a TV for about 1400 and had an extended warranty; it broke and I found out that the warranty we bought didn’t even apply – we got screwed and that was the last time!

  3. kram on September 6th, 2008 11:09 am

    its ok to regret not making that 3 pointer at Madison Square Garden to potentially win $10,000 on Christmas Day right in front of the LA Lakers bench which included the likes of Kobe Bryant. I dont regret that at all.

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  5. Mike Calimbas on September 8th, 2008 11:23 am

    And here I am kicking myself in the head for buying the XBOX 360 extended warranty. It’s a double-edged sword. I got the red-ring the first time when I passed on the warranty. Now that I purchased it, the xbox will be alive for 30 years.

  6. Ben on September 8th, 2008 12:30 pm

    Regrets, I’ve had a few…
    That which don’t kill me, only makes me stronger.

  7. LC on September 8th, 2008 3:15 pm

    ah Mike – the red ring of death! we had that happen to us twice. Just like you, once without the warranty and once with. Im sure that warranty will be worth it! i also heard you get the ring when its overheated too much. who knows!

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