Comments on: Pursuit of Dating http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/ Thu, 11 Aug 2011 05:02:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Another 15 Songs to Get You Pumped Up : ploomy - what men need to know http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-2841 Another 15 Songs to Get You Pumped Up : ploomy - what men need to know Thu, 14 Aug 2008 17:09:56 +0000 http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/#comment-2841 [...] very good.” I agree just like that. Now you probably don’t want Flavor Flav to help you find a good date, have you seen Flavor of Love? You do want him and Chuck D blaring out your speakers if you want to [...] [...] very good.” I agree just like that. Now you probably don’t want Flavor Flav to help you find a good date, have you seen Flavor of Love? You do want him and Chuck D blaring out your speakers if you want to [...]

]]> By: girl http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1617 girl Wed, 16 Jul 2008 19:22:50 +0000 http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/#comment-1617 Be cautious... In my experience, being a woman "making the first moves" will not necessarily give you the desired outcome, unless you are dealing with someone painfully shy. Being too aggressive and too available takes away the challenge and the satisfaction that women, and especially men, feel when pursuing (and getting) someone new. If you just want to get laid that's one thing, but if you are looking for respect and a relationship... don't make it too easy for them. Be assertive and straightforward (don't play games) but also don't overpower the situation. Be cautious… In my experience, being a woman “making the first moves” will not necessarily give you the desired outcome, unless you are dealing with someone painfully shy. Being too aggressive and too available takes away the challenge and the satisfaction that women, and especially men, feel when pursuing (and getting) someone new. If you just want to get laid that’s one thing, but if you are looking for respect and a relationship… don’t make it too easy for them. Be assertive and straightforward (don’t play games) but also don’t overpower the situation.

]]> By: Kris Leslie http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1586 Kris Leslie Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:57:43 +0000 http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/#comment-1586 Author, you spoiled me with very a good heading and decent content. However, if your going to imply that your going to give a list then by all means do so and don't mislead the reader into thinking it is worth their time to finish reading the rest of the article and not find one. However, I'm not flaming you. First and foremost the reason (man or woman) can't get past the first stage of dating is due to FEAR. It is a bothersome force that lies in each of us. It can make us do stupid things, and it can make us become more cautious and even make us stronger some say. I believe that once you actually meet your fear(s) face first and immediately deal with them, dating (or anything you choose) won't be so "hard". QUOTE "Wow! I’m not even going to attempt to give you Steps 3 through 9. Are we really this dumb and idiotic? The point I’m trying to get at is that most of us single and available men/women are no longer self reliant on our own actions. " Callling your readers dumb and idiotic won't win any to come back to the site. I do agree with you to a point that we don't rely enough on our own actions however in all things balance must be kept. You can only rely on yourself so much before you have to "rely" on someone else. Life is full on contrast and balance. infact they go hand in hand. QUOTE "Back in the 1950’s, it was unheard of for a woman to ask for a date or to initiate the dating process. The men were supposed to do all the work." This is a prime example of the culture at the time (and possibly still today) being childish, selfish and in general women created more tension doing this. However it does bring about a wonderful thing in the psyche, either you adapt or you fail. So apparently some did fail and some did adapt. However, a man nor a woman is "suppose" do all the work...I'm suppose to live, breathe, eat, sleep, and rinse/repeat thats about it. I agree with your point that men and women need to become less worried about the "rules" of dating because apparently those rules are flawed. I believe a structure and example of a good, bad and stagnant relationship would be better to provide than "rules". However with all things it is best to know the rules or guidelines so that you know which ones you can follow, bend or even break. Author, you spoiled me with very a good heading and decent content. However, if your going to imply that your going to give a list then by all means do so and don’t mislead the reader into thinking it is worth their time to finish reading the rest of the article and not find one. However, I’m not flaming you.

First and foremost the reason (man or woman) can’t get past the first stage of dating is due to FEAR. It is a bothersome force that lies in each of us. It can make us do stupid things, and it can make us become more cautious and even make us stronger some say. I believe that once you actually meet your fear(s) face first and immediately deal with them, dating (or anything you choose) won’t be so “hard”.

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“Wow! I’m not even going to attempt to give you Steps 3 through 9. Are we really this dumb and idiotic? The point I’m trying to get at is that most of us single and available men/women are no longer self reliant on our own actions. ”

Callling your readers dumb and idiotic won’t win any to come back to the site. I do agree with you to a point that we don’t rely enough on our own actions however in all things balance must be kept. You can only rely on yourself so much before you have to “rely” on someone else. Life is full on contrast and balance. infact they go hand in hand.

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“Back in the 1950’s, it was unheard of for a woman to ask for a date or to initiate the dating process. The men were supposed to do all the work.”

This is a prime example of the culture at the time (and possibly still today) being childish, selfish and in general women created more tension doing this. However it does bring about a wonderful thing in the psyche, either you adapt or you fail. So apparently some did fail and some did adapt. However, a man nor a woman is “suppose” do all the work…I’m suppose to live, breathe, eat, sleep, and rinse/repeat thats about it.

I agree with your point that men and women need to become less worried about the “rules” of dating because apparently those rules are flawed. I believe a structure and example of a good, bad and stagnant relationship would be better to provide than “rules”. However with all things it is best to know the rules or guidelines so that you know which ones you can follow, bend or even break.

]]> By: jaylo http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1251 jaylo Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:39:42 +0000 http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/#comment-1251 i concur! i concur!

]]> By: share-bare http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1222 share-bare Wed, 02 Jul 2008 17:48:29 +0000 http://www.ploomy.com/2008/06/30/pursuit-of-dating/#comment-1222 KRAM - There is really not a problem with it. The only I think we lack nowadays is that one on one contact. I guess it all depends on preference. I too prefer the old fashioned way =) Technology is great , but why do we have to rely on it for dating purposes? It's too impersonal. It especially spoils the first impression of meeting somebody face to face, don't you think? It's kind of cheating in a way. There are too many shortcuts for our generation. Why the rush? Finding a date shouldn't be a speeding contest. It takes time. We are beginning to lose the meaning of live in-person communication/interaction. Now, I would definitely go bonkers if later down the road I see a website that says, "Get Hitched Online for only $49.95!". Please just kill me first! Just shoot me, ok? Wait - it doesn't exist yet, does it? I'm not ready to die!! LMAO! KRAM – There is really not a problem with it. The only I think we lack nowadays is that one on one contact. I guess it all depends on preference. I too prefer the old fashioned way =)

Technology is great , but why do we have to rely on it for dating purposes? It’s too impersonal. It especially spoils the first impression of meeting somebody face to face, don’t you think? It’s kind of cheating in a way. There are too many shortcuts for our generation. Why the rush? Finding a date shouldn’t be a speeding contest. It takes time. We are beginning to lose the meaning of live in-person communication/interaction.

Now, I would definitely go bonkers if later down the road I see a website that says, “Get Hitched Online for only $49.95!”. Please just kill me first! Just shoot me, ok?

Wait – it doesn’t exist yet, does it? I’m not ready to die!! LMAO!

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