How to Keep the Woman in Your Life Happy
By MSBautista in Life Hacks
photography by kalandrakas
Since the dawn of mankind, men and women have boggled their minds trying to understand one another. Moreover, men have struggled to figure out what it takes to make the women in their lives happy.
Honestly guys, while women can be very complex, most don’t require much to keep them happy. I asked both single and attached women alike, “What does it take to keep you happy in a relationship?” In no particular order, here’s how they answered in the form of ten helpful tips.
1) Be yourself. This is the probably the easiest piece of advice one could give you, but it’s simply the truth. For instance, don’t act like a “bad boy” just because she’s only dated “bad boys” in the past. There’s a reason why she fell for you in the first place, so just continue being yourself, cause it’s working for you.
2) Do little things for her. Offer to pick-up her dry cleaning or buy her a bag of her favorite gummy bears; these simple gestures show that you care and are thinking of her on a regular basis, says Patty, 26. There’s a fine line though, she continues, “Don’t get whipped. You gotta have some of your own stances to remain of interest to her.”
3) Appreciate her. Remember to say please and thank you, and don’t be afraid to tell her that you appreciate all she does for you. Nidia, 28 says, “I have a sense of value about myself and I want to know that he values me just as much.” Not taking each other for granted and appreciating her is key in a good relationship.
4) Keep your eyes on her. Girls get that guys have a wandering eye—a Victoria Secret model look-alike comes in your line of vision, and we know you’re going to gawk! (Girls do it too, but we’re just more tactful and/or slick about it.) When you’re with your girl, be respectful and keep all googly-eyed staring to a minimum. This is not to say only have eyes for her, but definitely be mindful that this behavior may bother her and mess with her self-confidence.
5) Keep her laughing. A good sense of humor is another no-brainer way to keep your girl. Kudos to you if making her laugh comes naturally, but don’t worry if she doesn’t get your humor right off. Keep her laughing, as “it will be harder to make her mad with a smile on both your faces,” proclaims Patricia, 29.
6) Take interest in something she’s passionate about. You love sports and she loves the ballet. It’s not necessary to be into the same things, however, understanding the reasons why she’s passionate about ballet wouldn’t be a bad idea. Showing interest in something she cares about shows you care about her, and infinitely makes her feel good about herself and the relationship.
7) Keep yourself groomed. Okay, you got her…but that’s not an open invitation to stop caring about your appearance! Keep eating healthy and hitting the gym. Continue to shave (unless she likes you scruffy), trim unwanted ear and nose hairs, and wear clean and stylish clothes. (If you never cared much about these grooming rituals, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to start.)
8) Be open to getting to know her family and friends. “If he is open to the idea [of getting to know them], it means he cares about knowing who is important in your life, and the people that helped shape the way you are,” states Kyla, 25. It’s a great way to show your gal that you’re serious; a commitment statement. “Also, having a guy who is confident enough to have fun hanging out with [your] friends is a great trait.”
9) Be considerate. For instance, if you’re running late to meet her or decided to join a few co-workers for drinks before heading home, be considerate and let her know. I know what you’re probably thinking—it’s unnecessary because you don’t keep tabs on each other and she’s not your “keeper”. That’s not the case at all. “Telling us ahead of time that you have to cancel or are running late is always a good idea and will result in a better outcome…especially if an argument is involved,” says Patricia, 29.
10) Be open to trying new things. Don’t let your relationship become too predictable and monotonous. Keep things fresh – be willing to try new things together. “It keeps [the relationship] enjoyable and you learn more about the person’s likes and dislikes,” Monina, 25 says.
Obviously, there are some girls that require much more attention and care than the aforementioned. Provided she’s not super needy or a gold-digger, following these simple tips can make a difference in your relationship, whether it’s new and blossoming or long-term and solid.
61 Comments, Comment or Ping
mochi chic
All of the above. I just wanna add one more: “Extra bootie points if you wash the dishes.”
Mar 11th, 2008
ladymo
happiness starts with yourself. don’t count on any man to make you happy.
Mar 12th, 2008
fatsdominio
It all starts in the bedroom. If you can make her happy there then you got no problems. I never ask her for sex even though I want it myself. Most guys can’t do this because they can’t hold out long enough for the payoff. This will only improve your relationship so try it for crying out loud.
Mar 12th, 2008
julian James
Many women wonder why men don’t want to get married.
Mar 12th, 2008
Miss Cellania
Any ONE of these things would make me very happy!
Mar 13th, 2008
Joe
I like how men are talked to like dogs; “do this, do this, do this”. This is not helpful; it’s crap. You want a childish relationship, by all means, follow her suggestions. If you want an adult relationship, it’s going to be both people, not one person acting like a begging puppy.
Mar 13th, 2008
justin
SERIOUSLY!!!! if you’re in the dating world, and these things are not obvious to you as a guy, then it’s time you take the next girl willing to sleep with you and marry her because you’re a loser. Every guy knows these things but the reality is that with most girls, we don’t care enough and know what we can get away with. If a girl is special enough to date “seriously” these “truths” are held self-evident. It’s literally ingrained in our DNA as innate, instinctual behavior. Girls just have to realize that the problem isn’t that we don’t know these things, it’s that you’re too boring to make us want to care that much.
Mar 13th, 2008
The Voice of Reason
You know girls, tons of men have these attributes. Tons of men would love to be this affectionate, caring, and respectful. But these men get ignored. Are invisible. Partly because they are shy, but often because you girls tend to go after the “rugged asshole.”
Even if you don’t go after the asshole-playa, you should probably get your girlfriends to stop. Men think logically. “I’m not getting what I want (read: a woman). How do I get it? This guy over here is successful, how is he doing it so I can try his methods?”
Men only listen to what you say for the first 18 years of their lives. Then they learn and only listen to what you DO.
Collectively, enforce your standards and you might find that you no longer have the need to post such lists.
Mar 13th, 2008
Larz Blackman
I usually despise these lists, but this one was respectful of both sexes. Then you’ve got the women to look out for like Mochi Chic: “Extra bootie points for washing the dishes?” Look, I’ll wash the dishes just to be nice — dangle your ass like a carrot before the horse and you lose my respect.
Mar 13th, 2008
Joe Lattari
Another thing that helps is if a guy can cook, trust me. I can cook well and my girlfriend loves it, especially when she watches me cook.
Mar 13th, 2008
VoiceO'Reason
What they say /= What they do
Goes for both sexes.
Mar 13th, 2008
Matt
And what about making a man happy? If I am happy in the relatioship then I will go overboard to do all these things for my woman but if she just expects me to do this without getting something back then she is so mistaken.
There is no I in team for a darned good reason. So girls, you want your man to do all this on the list, then do all that and more to him. You get back what you give.
Mar 13th, 2008
m
Obviously written by a woman. The only real method is be a complete asshole. “THE VOICE OF REASON” put it well.
Mar 13th, 2008
Jeff
Just tell her to get her ass in the kitchen and make you a sandwich. If she does it, she’s a keeper. Oh and tell her you like her around and stuff.
Mar 13th, 2008
james
After all the “struggles” women have gone through over the past 30+ years, this “list” sure does send them back awhile.
“Treat me like Im a Queen, I am a woman, therefore, I deserve it”
Just how does one treat someone equal, when they want to be made to feel special and reminded that we care and/or thinking of her? A CHILD needs constant reminders and nurturing, NOT an ADULT.
Mar 13th, 2008
Rio
If I’m going to be a lady’s personal escort and manwhore, I expect payment upfront - because I know I’ll be kicked to the kerb later when she evntually tires of me and a shiny new man pops up.
Then again, bing used for sex isn’t all that bad.
Mar 13th, 2008
Doug Brenner
While I do most of these, I can’t imagine or remember my woman doing more than two of these things for me, and we’ve been married 21 years.
Mar 13th, 2008
Josiah
This post is incorrect. The correct response is to give her my phone number.
Mar 13th, 2008
Josiah
Joke. That was a joke.
Mar 13th, 2008
relax
relax people all you have to do is switch the him to her in any of them
Mar 13th, 2008
wow
you mean her to him you flippin r tard
Mar 13th, 2008
knows better
This list is great advice on how to keep her happy…if the only woman in your life is your mom.
But in the dating relationship world, this list needs a huge reality check.
1. Don’t be obedient like this article suggests. Be a challenge, but in a good way. If she really only wanted the author’s list, she could just get one of those little squeaky lap dogs.No woman respects a pushover.
2. give her orgasms.
3. give her believable and honest compliments. It’s even better if it’s in front of other people.
4. don’t be predictable, but be strong and make decisions. Take the initiative.
5. make her jealous, but only a little bit. women value even more what other women want.
6. flirt with her, even after she’s yours.
7. be imaginative, be passionate.
8. repeat step 2.
Mar 13th, 2008
Ron Ludle
For once, I just wish that all you moron guys would just shut up for a second. You put fake names and hide behind your I’m better than this list attitude. Look where it got you…you’re being kept warm in bed by the fan from your laptop.
Mar 13th, 2008
Bryan
I was everything on this list to the girl in my life and somehow it still failed. at least I know I was on the right track.
Mar 13th, 2008
james
This is all crap the women think they want or at least wish they had. The truth is that as soon as you start doing this BS the sooner they’ll be looking for a real man that treats them the exact opposite. It doesn’t hurt to pull this crap off during the dating phase but you still need to keep them guesting and limit it to just enough to placate them. Women have a lot of fantasies that don’t measure up to reality. They need to feel needed (loved) and protected (safe, emotionally, financially and physically). Some regular daily attention and loving is all that’s needed. If you run into one that is different then move on to a normal woman.
Mar 13th, 2008
tobesters
Bah…
The whole thing about treating girls mean to keep em keen… really… you don’t have to do that. Good communication is paramount, and if you enter all those games you’ll be obscuring your proper channels of communications with a curtain of BS. Sure there’s people who are bitter and have their own reasons, but being straight up is going to keep us all on track. Don’t fall pray to that advice - if the relationship failed, playing games will only make future relationships worse, and keeping your partner on their toes isn’t a good place to grow love.
Mar 14th, 2008
Dr. Neptune
Women are shallow, self centered and heartless.
The real question women need to ask themselves is “WHAT WILL I OFFER IN RETURN?” You know the answer? NOTHING!!!!
Mar 14th, 2008
Another James
As a guy how has been very happily married for ten years, I have to say that I don’t think this is good advice.
If you have to go out of your way all of the time to do stuff for your wife so that she is happy, then you’ve married the wrong woman. You’ll just start to resent all the effort you’re putting in just to make her happy.
Some women seem to believe that they are some kind of gift to their man and they deserve special treatment because they are a woman. Avoid these types, you won’t be happy with them.
Mar 14th, 2008
Andrew
thanks for the list.. ill write in my notes..
Mar 14th, 2008
David Palmer
I do all the above and a lot more, the more I do the more she wants.
Yet she does NOTHING for me.
She wants independence but if I give her that she says I am not being supportive.
I have come to the conclusion that she is an ungrateful bitch.
She even puts her own needs before those of the kids.
I have spent years trying to accommodate her needs while at the same time I have had nothing but contempt from her.
It seems inevitable that we must part, she would be gone tomorrow if she could afford it.
Sadly we have to work a way to split up that does not hurt the kids, but I know that she will make it hell for all concerned.
Mar 14th, 2008
dave
I like that #1 is Be Yourself and everything that follows tells me to be someone else. I don’t really care about making someone happy too much. It’s not my problem. If a woman is unhappy or miserable for whatever reason, I don’t wanna hear it. She must go.
This is more stupid drivel than even Oprah could stomach… and that’s a lot of drivel.
Mar 14th, 2008
THE LIGHT
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seduction_community
Supporters of this community typically believe that the conventional dating advice for men is fatally flawed.[14] For example, they reject the notion that men should attempt to woo women by spending money on them (e.g. buying drinks, presents, jewelry), calling it “supplication”.[15]. They also discourage flattery.[16] They believe that physical looks are less important to women in selection of a partner than they are to men, as evidenced by top gurus who rated poorly with their looks on a Hot or Not style of website[17] (Template:verify). Many members of the seduction community work on their “game” (seduction skills) by improving their understanding of female psychology, their confidence and self-esteem (termed “inner game”), and their social skills and physical appearance (physical fitness, fashion sense, grooming) (”outer game”). Many members of the community believe that one’s “game” is refined through regular practice,[18] with the idea that the abilities needed to interact with women can be improved.
Mar 14th, 2008
Bob
Once the baby is born this list is all garbage.
BTW… when women want to play, they want a player. When they want to settle down they’ll take Mr. Safe. Nowadays, though, most don’t know how to make that transition. So, they try to fix or change a player and get upset that they can’t.
Then, when the baby is born, they only want a man who will do what they say and when, but most of all they want a money man. If you don’t bring home the bacon, you’ll never hear the end of the complaints. Even if you do earn good money, they want to control everything connect to the kids… good luck if you fight it.
Best is to find a honest women who is generous. You can always have lovers on the side and you won’t get old early from all of the arguements.
Mar 14th, 2008
For Bryan
Bryan, you weren’t on the right track. When the relationship fails, it’s always your fault, not hers. You didn’t been a jerk, you were the opposite, you’ve been too good to her. That’s why the relationship failed, because you have not been the strong, powerful and masculine MAN he truly wants.
Mar 14th, 2008
asdf
Thanks a lot for this article.
this will help our pammi
Mar 14th, 2008
Cartman.Fatboy
Caught this link on Del.icio.us/popular.
Its a shame so many people have made this cosmo-crap a “popular” page. Damn
Mar 14th, 2008
Pathetic
I like how all the girls asked are young. The oldest (29?) seriously could only be in a serious relation for ten years at most and you think she’s going to be having the same perspective in life when she hits fourty? I guess the author is too dumb to figure it out but 80% of divorced people are not in their twenties. They’ve lived together long enough to see how their lives come about. Everyone knows when your young everything’s great, it’s later on down the road that matters and none of these women have that experience. Pathetic article.
Mar 14th, 2008
divorced
Women have become spoiled bitches. Even if you do all these things many times it’s not enough. They “want it all”. There has been a self entitlement trend growing in women for years via the feminism movement and it has gotten way out of control. Having been down this road I can tell you that being “a perfect gentleman” and doing all the things on this list plus some will add to this self entitlement and cause her to be unhappy. Happiness starts from within. It has little to do with what he does or does not do. Women need to grow up and quickly get over this idea of having it all. Men are getting shafted and shit on left and right and can’t figure out why. Feminism. Women think they can work full timem have kids and maintain a happy marriage. The reality is they cannot. Marriage or any relationship is a partnership that takes commitment, sharing and work. Expecting men to do all the work while women reap the rewards is shit and doesn’t work. It like this ladies: Have a career OR have a family. You CANNOT have both and you CANNOT expect men to cater to this whimsical fantasy. Wake up! Be a wife and a mother OR a valued member of the work force. You can’t expect to have both while expecting men to work, be a father and a husband and cater to your every whim. It’s just not realistic. It’s a fantasy. Leave it in lala land check back into reality and join the relationship by picking up your half of the duties and commitment. If you want a family forget about the career OR the husband needs to take over the matriarchal role of yesteryear, which isn’t a problem. The problem is expecting too much and giving too little.
RING RING RING it’s the clue phone ladies and it’s for YOU!
Mar 14th, 2008
Gib
I’ve done all of the above mentioned the problem that we all want our bread buttered on both side…
Be nice, be considerate, be a man…sure, when girls have that they tend to take it for granted so guys just go both ways…
keep her on her toes….Yes girls you guys like being messed with make her beg for your attention by giving more away to other girls.
Its a game and the longer you play it the better you will get.
And love, seriously…its an illusion. Being the perfect guy might get you the girl but they, like you will never stay!
Mar 14th, 2008
Fred
I’ve been married 28 years and a successful relationship depends on may factors. It is very difficult to state “definitive” do’s and don’ts because everyone has different needs, but here are my suggestions for both sexes:
l. Be honest (but with tact)
2. Show interest in what he/she has to say (even when it bores you)
3. Maintain your individuality (and don’t expect your partner to give up theirs)
4. Be flexible
Mar 14th, 2008
Cory
I agree with those who posted the notion that women both:
a) Shouldn’t assume they need a man to be happy and should be able to give themselves all they need for themselves, and;
b) People should be looking towards an ADULT relationship where both people are understanding, thoughtful, and realistic. A childish relationship is one where there’s a constant need of attention, catering to every need, one-sided “I’m a female, therefore I’m the queen” attitude, and an inate desire to be swept off your feet on a daily basis.
I would just like to say that if you find the right person, they are going to understand that if you remove the gender from the situation, there are simply two people in the room, and we all like and deserve someone in our lives that we truly enjoy. If you really care for each other and just like being around each other, then that list up there will happen on it’s own.
Yes, i understand that applying that list to women will help you get to that point in a relationship. I just want it to be said that more people need to calm down, read LESS cosmopolitan magazine (that mag will warp a women’s mind in less than 20 pages), and just get out there and enjoy everyone you meet. It’s a healthy approach to life, and it brings you more than you’ll ever know.
Last point. I absolutely agree with the one who posted that you can’t be a pushover. That’s something that applies to women as well. I work as a mechanic and most of those men are the “make me a sandwich” variety. They say i need to find one of ‘those’ women. Why? So i can talk to her about her day, which was the same as the day the before, and they day before that? I want someone who has her own job, and car, and well, her own life. I won’t be paying for all those shoes she’s buying, albeit it’s always nice to do something for someone, but she needs to be able to take care of herself and show some self-respect. If not, i won’t respect her. So it goes both ways.
Don’t listen to rules or steps or what anyone really says (including me!)…..simply put, if it feels healthy, you’ll know it, and you’ll want to take care of it. The title of this article should have been “SOME things to keep the “PERSON” in your life happy” as it’s obvious, universal stuff…..although only to those with a relatively healthy heart and mind. Good luck everyone.
Mar 14th, 2008
gene
Don’t beat her.
Mar 14th, 2008
Kevin
Listen to “The Voice of Wisdom” ladies. I did all this and more to an ex girlfriend I had. I gave her my world and treated her like a queen. After 6 years together and numerous talks about marriage and kids I found out she was bangin some spikey haired, faggy looking bartender. You might be thinking I was bad in the sack, but the orgasm count was usually her 5 to 10 to my 1 to 2. I made sure to knock the bottom out every time. So you can take these lists and shove it. I haven’t dated one girl since that appreciates these attributes you list. They all want the arrogant jerk that is going to hit it and quit it. Most of my female friends are like this as well. They come to me crying every week because the pretty boy they were dating was all nice and shiny on the outside but pure evil on the inside. And you know what. They go out and do it all over again every time. I don’t have any compassion for these girls and any others in the same situation because YOU CAUSED IT! YOU MADE MEN THIS WAY! Men stopped doing these things when you stopped appreciating them. The nice guys (like the ones in your list) never get the girl. No, you want the spikey haired faggy guy to do all these things in your list. Give me a break. You don’t deserve it. You would just leave him for the next arrogant jerk to come along. Enjoy your one night stands while you can and 500 cats when you get old.
Mar 14th, 2008
scott smith
If this stuff wasn’t obvious to you before you read this then read it again and save your macho reverse sexism comments for the fellas at work.
Most of us are so friggin self-centered we aren’t listening or even thinking about other people.
Honesty has given me a loving, long term relationship to a beautiful woman.
You can be rugged and sweet at the same time.
Mar 14th, 2008
andy
okay, here’s how it goes. the list is all well and good, but there are a lot of women who certainly are bitches and will walk all over you. just treat her how you’d like to be treated. if she doesn’t appreciate it and reciprocate, move on and find another woman that will. there is no list of things that will make every woman happy, or even most. different women want different things, and unfortunately, none of them even know what they want. relationships take work. if you try your best to treat her well, and she is happy and does the same for you, that’s wonderful. it DOES happen. but if she requires more than you can give her, she’ll find someone who can give her what she requires. and you should find someone who will be happy with what you can give them.
Mar 14th, 2008
Bobo Honkystonks
Herein lies the flaw: The study is based on responses from women, who, ultimately never say what they mean, and rarely mean what they say. Women will generally give a response based on how they want to appear or be perceived, rather on how they actually feel. Generally ( and I usually hate to generalize or stereotype, but in this case there are studies that show this) women want to appear to others as “low-maintenance”. There isn’t a woman in the world (that I have met anyway) that will say it takes a lot to keep her happy. The list should read more like this:
1) Be yourself - unless of course there is something she doesn’t like and wants to change about you. However, once she has successfully changed it, she will no longer have respect for you and will dump you or cheat on you anyway.
2) Do little things for her - just make sure they are the things she wants you to do for her, of course she will never tell you what these are and if you’re not successful in understanding what they are “you know nothing about her” in which case she now resents you and will dump you or cheat on you.
3) Appreciate her - but expect not to be appreciated.
4) Keep your eyes on her - don’t tell her she’s getting fat, don’t tell her she’s letting herself go… but, in the end, she resents you for not telling her when she realizes it for herself and finally comes out of denial… in which case, she starts going to the gym and “focusing on her” prior to “focusing on someone new” dumping you or cheating on you…
5) Keep her laughing. - but damnit, don’t act like a child… don’t have too much fun… don’t be silly in public places… don’t go have fun with your buddies…. oh, and after you do those things, she no longer thinks your fun, then dumps you or cheats on you.
6) Take interest in something she’s passionate about. - but don’t get too involved with it. Don’t want to do what she is passionate about… just appreciate that she is…and oh… give up the things that you are passionate about, like music, because those things only detract from the relationship. After you have given them up of course, she no longer respects you and dumps you or cheats on you.
7) Keep yourself groomed. - But don’t make too much effort at this, because if you do… she either belives your gay, or trimming up for someone else. In which case, she feels the need for revenge and dumps you or cheats on you.
8) Be open to getting to know her family and friends - Never contradict her when she is dealing with her family even if you don’t agree with her position. Make sure you don’t have her parents liking you too much, otherwise she thinks you’re just conspiring with them to take over her life. In which case she dumps you or cheats on you.
9) Be considerate. - But don’t expect the same courtesy. Afterall, she is not thinking about cheating on you or dumping you….
10) Be open to trying new things. - Don’t expect her to tell you what those new things are that she wants… just figure them out. Of course if you don’t… she resents you, then dumps you or cheats on you.
11) Don’t take my list too seriously - It was written in fun, with some underlying truths, I guess it just goes back to the oldest addage… can’t live with them… can’t kill them. :)
Mar 14th, 2008
Mr. BS
This is crap. The nicer you are, the worse they become. This works both ways of course. There’s a good reason all the “assholes” are getting what they want, while nice guys are left in the corner.
Mar 14th, 2008
Jeff
Wow, this article makes women sound like idiot pets or some sort of plant for visual aesthetics or a child…
So basically what you’re saying is that women are high maintenance and can be pigeonholed into a set of instructions? Sadly, not far off!
Mar 14th, 2008
Tim
if two people truly love one another, they won’t need guidelines. Not that relationships don’t take work, they do, they certainly do, but in this day and age of people trying to figure out what life is, I ask you consider this - if an individual knows what life is for themselves, outside of influences from media, friends and family, then they know what love really is and it won’t be so hard, nor will it sound like women, and men, are completely unsatisfied with each other. first take the beam out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly how to remove the splinter from your brother’s or sister’s eye
Mar 14th, 2008
ED.
@Bobo Honkystonks
hahaha that was really good ;) nice comment!
Mar 14th, 2008
Jajayjay
Do these things, and nothing will ever go wrong in your relationship. Your beloved woman will never be upset or angry or unhappy.
Oh wait, that’s not quite right, is it? Bobo, you nailed it.
Mar 14th, 2008
Tyler
Spend quality time with your lady, that’s a very important lesson that I learned.
Mar 14th, 2008
WIlbur
What women say they want is very different from what they actually want.
Bobo pretty much nails it, albeit in a snarky way.
Treat a woman like a nice guy, and she will steamroll right over you in her quest to get to the next bad boy who will “entice” and “tease” her without doing any of the items on the list above.
Mar 14th, 2008
KC
A woman’s mood cannot be changed by kindness from her man. I think the list implies that it can be, which is not true. If a woman is unhappy she will be angry even if her man is an angel… and if a woman is happy, she can even love a man who beats her up every once in a while.
That being said, the worst thing a woman can do to a good man is to be unhappy. Unfortunately good men are almost powerless to fix this.
-k
Mar 14th, 2008
mrogi
Show me a guy capable of doing all those things and I will screw him instead of my wife.
Mar 14th, 2008
kd
Wow. Just…wow… what complete and utter crap.
As a woman, I can truthfully say, most women expect too much and give too little. They are caught up in the fake perfect lives and relationships they see on TV and in the movies. There are crap daytime TV shows, magazines and online articles like this one telling them it is OK to demand what they want (or think they might want) and take it at the expense of their partner and even their children.
Get. Over. Yourself. You are far from perfect, so why should you expect someone else to be? I know I’m not, and don’t know any woman or man who is…
For the past two months, I’ve been dating someone who has been treated like crap by his ex-wife and a couple of girlfriends. He is surprised when I offer to get him a beer, cook him dinner or do his dishes, when I won’t let him pay my way for dinner or other activities, and when I compliment him. He is constantly asking me, “Is this OK with you?”, as though I might have a freak out at him for the slightest thing.
I have to wonder what sort of demanding idiots most women have become if this poor man felt as though he had to constantly be on guard with his words and his actions while with those other women. He has finally figured out I like him just the way he is, and he can be himself around me. Yes, he really can be himself - they way he thinks, talks and behaves is why I am attracted to him.
Oh, and for the record, he is several years older than me, bald, not particularly rugged (rather geeky actually!), sweet, adorable, kind, considerate, helpful (he vacuumed while I made dinner and did laundry last night), fantastic in the bedroom (or wherever else we feel like it!), makes me laugh, and we can really talk to each other about anything and everything.
Probably the one thing from the list I partially agree with is “Do little things”, but not quite the same way as intended in this article. For me, the “little things” would be cleaning up after yourself and having consideration for the other person, but this applies to both men and women. Actually, this applies to everyone - if people had more consideration for each other, i.e. considered how their actions or words might adversely impact others, I think there would be a lot less stress and frustration in the world. OK, I’m getting off the “world would be a better place if” soapbox…
Guys, there are women out there who will appreciate you just as you are - dump the princesses! After they’ve been dumped enough times, maybe they’ll get a clue…
Mar 14th, 2008
Taylor Satula
I like the first jeff’s comment even if its not true
Mar 16th, 2008
dd
all this for what? to live in a doghouse?
sounds too wussy to me… you’ll make her happy not yourself.
Mar 16th, 2008
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